Comments for Touched By Angels

Comment on Still by Carla

Carla — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:47:50 +0000

I have been looking for this song for so long. I heard it on the radio shortly after my best friend experienced a loss and I have been searching for it since then. I am so glad I found it. Thank-you for posting it. It is such a hauntingly beautiful song.

Comment on Footprints Across our Heart by Living in the Rainbow

Living in the Rainbow — Tue, 16 Feb 2010 20:52:46 +0000

Very poignant poem indeed, thanks for sharing it

Comment on Oliver’s Story: A New Phobia by Stephen

Stephen — Wed, 03 Feb 2010 12:21:29 +0000

I can definitely relate to this phobia, particularly in the early days. I remember being in Marks and Spencer during a crowded pre-Christmas sale and seeing pregnant women everywhere. It felt suffocating and I just had to get out of the shop. As time goes by I think it’s not as hard, although I imagine it being harder for mums who have lost a child than dads.

Comment on Oliver’s Story: Oliver Daniel’s birth story by Living in the Rainbow

Living in the Rainbow — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 23:40:57 +0000

Thank you for sharing this story. My daughter Abigail was a triploidy baby, although we only knew that after she was born. We too found there was a problem at 20 weeks but it took until 33 weeks for her to leave us.

I relate to much of your birth story and afterwards.

Peace to you

Comment on Oliver’s Story: Life after Ollie by Stephen

Stephen — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 19:03:08 +0000

Oh yes, definitely a long list of things people say that really don't help. I wish at the time we had the list of do's and don'ts that I found subsequently.

Comment on Oliver’s Story: Oliver Daniel’s birth story by Stephen

Stephen — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 18:59:59 +0000

Birth stories are always ones that are shared by people (particular women), but when the outcome was not a happy one it can be very difficult feel like it is acceptable to share.

I can really relate to the part when you said “quiet, don’t wake him”. In the early days, waking up and remembering what you have lost was one of the most horrible feelings.

Comment on Do’s and Don’ts by livingintherainbow

livingintherainbow — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 23:06:47 +0000

First, I am glad to see the link to Care’s Bereaved Parent’s Network. Without going into detail I know Kath and Mike who set this up and I have a lot of respect for them!

Do’s and Don’ts – I have thought of doing a post on this for a while but since some of my friends read my blog I didn’t want them to be wondering whether I was talking about them.

Do:
- make space to talk about what has happened
- ask how we are and really mean it
- mention our baby by name
- expect it to take a long time for us to grieve, we won’t “get over it”
- remember anniversary of death, due dates, birthdays, christmas, mother’s and father’s day – these matter
- give us something with our babies name on it
- be a friend for the long term
- give us a hug
- be ready to cry – that means a lot
- keep saying the obvious things months/years on – you are sorry, it must be hard etc.

Don’t:
- say you know what we are going through unless you have lost a baby yourself and then you wouldn’t say that because you know every loss is link
- change the subject when we mention our baby
- try to make us feel better or fix our grief – this only belittles our loss
- think the things we do to remember our baby are morbid
- worry about upsetting us – our baby dies we are upset already
- compare our loss to another loss you or someone else has experienced – it doesn’t help

Thanks for the post

Comment on A simple photo effect by livingintherainbow

livingintherainbow — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 20:19:15 +0000

I think it is great what you have proposed – I might try some of these changes you have shown how to do. Although I have different programme but might be able to do the same ideas.

I definately recomment babyangelpics – only thing is go and logon a week after submitting as they don’t tell you when they have done it! But it will probably be there

Comment on That dreaded question by livingintherainbow

livingintherainbow — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 20:17:20 +0000

Actually I have never had someone pick up on the “one with us” response. I quite like the “one in primary one, one in heaven” answer but I have never had the guts to try it yet!

Comment on A simple photo effect by Stephen

Stephen — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 18:09:23 +0000

@livingintherainbow Wow – that’s a great service and the photo Abigail that you posted looks beautiful. We took lots of photos of our angel and so it’s great for us to be able to do small adjustments but I think we may submit a photo or two to BabyAngelPics some time also.